A custody-related disagreement that occurs during or after a divorce can quickly become time consuming and expensive. Communicating through attorneys, waiting for a court hearing, and dealing with any postponements that occur frustrate even the most patient of adults. Finding ways to settle a custody dispute without a court hearing is something that many parents focus on as their disagreement gets dragged out and they begin to desire closure. There are ways to handle a custody dispute without attending a court hearing that allow you and your former spouse to come to a decision that suits you both instead of having the judge decide for you.


Mediation is an often recommended alternative to court hearings that allow you and your former spouse to discuss custody concerns while working together to find a solution. The primary focus of child custody related mediation is to look out for the best interests of your child. The mediator is a neutral party whose goal is helping you and your former spouse come to an agreement that is best for you and your children. Mediation is less expensive than attending multiple hearings and is also less contentious, leading to less stress, blame, or anger.

Involve Your Attorney

While you have hired your attorney to provide you with legal advice, it is normal for clients to underutilize their legal representation. The attorney you have retained has likely dealt with hundreds of custody disputes and understands the best ways to get disagreements settled quickly.  Allowing your attorney to take the lead in negotiations and provide recommendations can help you resolve your issues before they go to court. Attorneys are able to attend mediation with you and it possible to have your attorney meet directly with your spouse’s attorney to negotiate on your behalf. Though your attorney is focused on serving your best interests, they are also able to view this situation from a semi-neutral standpoint.

Talk to Your Ex

If you are starting to feel as if the custody dispute is financially draining and not resolving anything it is probable that your ex is starting to feel the same way. Speaking to your former partner directly can give you an opportunity to resolve any issues and decide whether coming to an agreement together is better than letting the court decide. Remember, even if you and your ex are able to hold a conversation without too much animosity, a formal agreement to confirm your decisions is necessary. Relying on a verbal agreement or attempting to co-parent without a custody order in place could lead to a disaster.

Contact an Expert

Once not having a child custody agreement has become a problem that needs to be resolved, it is time to contact a child custody and visitation attorney. A conscientious and appropriately aggressive attorney can help you move the child support discussion forward so that you can obtain a custody agreement without months or years of litigation. The team at Vayman & Teitelbaum understand that all custody situations are different. We are prepared to discuss your unique situation with you and help you come up with a plan that will work for you. Contact us today at 678-736-7700 to schedule an initial consultation at one of our conveniently located Atlanta, Georgia offices.