Fidelity is the cornerstone of marriage upon which trust is built. A couple’s loyalty to each other is often one of the few consistent aspects of an uncertain life, and when one spouse feels as though that trust is broken, the entire relationship can quickly deteriorate. Once a person begins suspecting his or her spouse of infidelity, the first instinct is to search for ways to obtain definitive proof that the infidelity has really taken place. If you are trying to find out if your spouse has been unfaithful, there are three things you should never do when trying to prove infidelity.

Do Not Spy Electronically

Technology has advanced to the point at which any amateur detective can obtain tools for spying on the internet with little trouble and limited knowledge. A person who believes a spouse is cheating may be tempted to use readily available software to record conversations or document online discussions. Even creating a fake social media account for the sole purpose of watching your spouse’s online activity might be tempting, but giving into those impulses could cause trouble. Online privacy laws associated with a marriage or romantic relationship are constantly evolving. Giving into the impulse to spy on a spouse electronically could lead to accusations of spying or violating laws of which you were completely unaware.

Do Not Follow Your Spouse

After resisting the urge to snoop on your spouse online, you may be tempted to physically observe your spouse’s movements. Again, this is behavior that could lead to accusations of spying or (if you are separated) stalking. Privacy is an important part of any marriage, and doing things to violate your spouse’s privacy should be avoided at all costs. While suspicion of cheating or misappropriating marital funds may seem like powerful incentives and excuses to monitor your spouse, a court may not always agree with you. The last thing you need to deal with in the middle of a divorce is having a protective order taken out against you.

Do Not Engage in Public Confrontations

Confronting a spouse in public over cheating or engaging in a confrontation with the person he or she is cheating on you with is never a good idea. Not only does it expose your relationship to outside scrutiny, if often alerts your partner to your suspicions while letting him or her know exactly how much information you do (or do not) have. In some extreme cases, an angry confrontation over cheating has turned violent with someone being seriously injured or killed.  Instead of giving into anger, let an attorney or the legal system handle the situation for you.

Contact an Attorney

Infidelity can have a strong impact on your physical and emotional wellbeing. Instead of reacting impulsively based on suspicions, contact a family law attorney to discuss your concerns. An attorney can let you know what to expect if you choose to move forward with a legal separation or divorce. The compassionate attorneys at Vayman & Teitelbaum know that dealing with any form of infidelity is difficult. We understand that it may take time to decide how best to move forward and we are able to provide you with the legal advice necessary when weighing your options. Contact us today to schedule an appointment at one of our Atlanta, Georgia locations so that we can begin providing you with the legal assistance that you need.