Divorce is almost always a traumatic experience for children. Because divorcing parents often find themselves juggling a number of issues, it is common for a child’s interests to fall by the wayside. When parents fail to adequately consider their children’s needs during divorce, the whole family suffers. The following takes a look at the truth behind some of the most long-lasting and widespread myths about how children handle the divorce.
MYTH: Divorce is Less Traumatic for Younger Children
Some parents think that if children are still young enough that they cannot form in-depth memories, they will be less traumatized by their parents’ divorce. This, however, is not true. While some children might not be able to process everything that is happening, they can still be emotionally upset by the separation of their parents.
While you might not be able to control the trauma that children face watching the end of their parents’ marriage, you can make this process easier by trying to cooperate with your former spouse and to go through the divorce as peacefully and cooperatively as possible.
MYTH: There is No Reason for Parents to Have the Same Rules
One of the greatest obstacles faced by children with divorced parents is when one parent has a different set of rules than the other. By providing consistency to your children, you will be able to increase the stability and security that they feel while going through this difficult time.
MYTH: Children of Divorce Benefit From Splitting Holidays
Some people think that children of divorce enjoy the holidays because they receive double the amount of attention and gifts, but in reality, always having to split holidays among parents can be challenging for a child.
The amount of traveling that is required can make a child end up feeling even more instability. It is often much better for divorced parents to split entire holidays in a fair manner, rather than shuttling the kids between houses mid-day.
MYTH: Children Should Know Every Detail About the Divorce
It is good to be honest with children about divorce, but there are certain boundaries that should remain. For example, by sharing unsavory details about the other parent, you place your child in an uncomfortable position. In some situations, children end up feeling that they are the ones being attacked when they hear negative things about a parent. It is a much better approach to keep things neutral or positive when speaking about your ex if you must say anything at all.
Speak with an Experienced Divorce Attorney
Making sure that children get through the divorce process as smoothly as possible is just one of the many challenges that parents must face after the end of a marriage.
If you have questions or concerns about the divorce process, you should not hesitate to contact a Georgia divorce attorney. Contact Vayman & Teitelbaum, P.C. today to schedule a free initial consultation.