Divorce is a significant life event that can have a profound impact on you and your family and is not a decision to be taken lightly. There are several factors to consider before deciding if divorce is the right option for you or not. 

Understand the Reasons Behind Your Decision

Before making any final decisions, take the time to understand the reasons behind your desire for a divorce. Is it due to a specific incident or behavior, or is it a culmination of multiple issues? Are these issues fixable, or are they fundamental differences that cannot be resolved? Identifying the underlying reasons behind your decision can help you evaluate whether divorce is the best option for you or not. 

Some of the most common underlying reasons for wanting a divorce include:

  • Infidelity: If one or both partners have been unfaithful, it can be challenging to repair the trust and move forward in the relationship.
  • Communication breakdown: Poor communication can lead to misunderstandings and resentments, making it difficult to resolve conflicts and maintain a healthy relationship.
  • Growing apart: Over time, couples may find that they have different values, goals, or interests that make it challenging to stay connected
  • Domestic abuse: If one partner is physically or emotionally abusive, divorce may be necessary to protect the safety and well-being of the other spouse and any children involved.
  • Addiction: Substance abuse or other forms of addiction can put a significant strain on a relationship, leading to conflict and often making it difficult to maintain trust.
  • Financial issues: Financial problems, such as overspending or debt, can cause stress and strain on a relationship, leading to tension and arguments.
  • Lack of intimacy: If one or both partners feel that there is a lack of emotional or physical intimacy in the relationship, it can be difficult to maintain a healthy connection.
  • Incompatibility: In some cases, couples may simply realize that they are not compatible and cannot sustain a long-term relationship.

Seek Professional Help

Divorce can be an opportunity for self-reflection and personal growth. A therapist can help you explore your feelings and emotions, identify patterns and behaviors that may have contributed to wanting a divorce, and work towards personal growth and healing. A therapist can help you process feelings of loss through your divorce and work through the stages of grief to find a sense of closure that will hopefully allow you to move forward should you decide a divorce is the right option for you. They can also provide guidance and tools for effective communication and conflict resolution, which can help minimize conflict and reduce tension. Should you decide to get divorced, therapy can be a valuable resource during and after the divorce process as well. 

Evaluate the Impact Divorce Will Have on Your Children

If you have children, it’s essential to consider how a divorce will affect them. Divorce can be challenging for children, and it’s important to take their feelings and well-being into account. Think about how you would manage co-parenting responsibilities and support your children through the transition. Having children does not necessarily mean you should postpone a divorce, but it’s crucial to keep in mind how this decision impacts them and consider what you can do to prepare your children throughout the process. Kids may not want their parents to get divorced, but they don’t want to see their parents miserable either. 

Consider the Financial Implications

Divorce can have a significant financial impact, and it’s important to evaluate the potential costs involved. In Georgia, marital property is subject to the principle of equal distribution, but separate property is kept by the original owner. In a divorce in Georgia, you’ll have to consider assets such as the family home, cars, investments, and retirement accounts. The process of dividing property can be complex and may require the assistance of financial and legal professionals.

You also need to consider the financial implications of spousal support which may be awarded in a divorce to help provide financial support to the lower-earning spouse. The amount and duration of spousal support can vary widely and depend on factors such as the length of the marriage, earning potential of both parties, and the standard of living during the marriage. Child support is another topic to consider. The amount of child support can vary based on the income of both parties, the number of children, and other factors. Divorce can have significant tax implications, particularly when it comes to property division and spousal support. Insurance coverage may also be affected by a divorce, including health insurance, life insurance, and auto insurance. It is important to review your insurance policies and make any necessary changes to ensure adequate coverage.

Finally, Divorce can be expensive, and legal fees can add up quickly. It is important to budget for these expenses and consider ways to minimize costs, such as using a mediator instead of going to court.

Discuss Your Options with Your Spouse

If possible, try to have an open and honest conversation with your spouse about your desire for a divorce.  Consider working together to create a plan for the divorce process that works for both of you.

Determining whether divorce is the right choice for you requires careful consideration of your circumstances and a willingness to seek professional help when needed. By evaluating the reasons behind your decision, considering the impact on your children and finances, and having an open dialogue with your spouse, you can make an informed decision that is right for you and your family.

Consult With Georgia’s Premier Divorce Attorneys

Divorce happens for a number of reasons in Georgia. If you are considering getting a divorce or have already determined divorce is right for you, consult the highly skilled family attorneys at Vayman & Teitelbaum P.C. to help you navigate the divorce process. Do not hesitate, contact us today.