Unfortunately, current statistics reveal that approximately 40 to 50% of married couples in the United States divorce. Many family must ultimately navigate the many challenges of divorce. One of the most challenging obstacles faced by couples who are about to divorce is how to inform their children. Because there is a risk that children will end up resenting you if you wait to tell them about a divorce, you should be honest about it at the earliest appropriate time. The exact manner in which you should tell your children about a divorce, however, can be complicated. This article will discuss some important things to consider when informing children about a divorce.
How to Answer Questions About Fault
Many children blame themselves for their parents’ divorce. You should reassure your children that they are not responsible for the end of your marriage. You should also remind your children that a divorce occurs between parents and that children have no role in this decision.
Make Your Approach Custom Fit to the Children’s Age
If you have children of different ages, make your conversation age-appropriate. Many times when divorce is involved, teenagers prove to be the most difficult, while younger children might have difficulty understanding what is happening. Because it can be challenging to decide how to inform your children that divorce is coming, many parents utilize the assistance of a child psychologist to help navigate the divorce process.
Remain Level Headed
Many parents feel horrible about having to tell children about an impending divorce because there is often a fear that all involved parties’ lives will change significantly. As a result, while it is normal to feel anger, guilt, and sadness about such an event, it is important to remain level-headed while speaking to your children about the divorce.
Teach Children What to do if Asked
One of the most common questions that children ask when they discover that their parents are going to get divorced is what to tell friends who ask about it. The best way to answer this question is to remind your child that he or she likely has many friends who have already faced this situation or are likely to face the situation at some point in the future. It can be helpful to tell your children that you decided divorce was the best move for your family.
Whether Spouses Will Attend the Same Events
One of the most common questions asked by children when they find out that their parents will be divorced is whether both parents will be at birthday parties and other special events. The answer to this question depends on how you and your soon-to-be former spouse feel about one another. If there is likely to be too much animosity, you can tell your children that they are likely to spend an equal but separate amount of time with the parents during the events.
Speak with an Experienced Divorce Lawyer
If you need assistance navigating the divorce process, do not hesitate to obtain the services of a seasoned divorce attorney. Contact Vayman & Teitelbaum P.C. to schedule an initial free consultation.