On his or her wedding day, the average person believes he or she is making the first step towards the rest of his or her life. Unfortunately, over half of all marriages end in divorce, making that long-ago wedding day possibly a memory tinged with regret. After it becomes apparent that a marriage cannot be salvaged, most men find themselves going through the long and painful process of coming to terms with what is happening while trying to decide how to carry one with their lives. Even though every situation is different, there are a few things that you should not do if you are a man going through a divorce.
Do Not Isolate Yourself
Men are often taught to suppress emotions and focus on appearing outwardly strong. That conditioning makes it hard for some men to reach out to friends or relatives for support in times of need. Divorce is a mentally and emotionally draining experience that can lead to feelings of depression or unbearable loneliness. It is important to surround yourself with friends and family members whom you trust to avoid isolating yourself. Being around people who care about you and understand what you are going through gives you an outlet for your emotions and a way to temporarily forget some of the stress of your situation.
Do Not Ignore Your Spouse
The last person a man going through a divorce wants to speak with is often his ex-spouse. Unfortunately, ignoring a spouse can prolong the entire divorce process and make things more difficult for both parties. The only way you will be able to create a mutually beneficial divorce settlement is by working with your spouse to determine issues such as property division, child custody, and financial support. Ignoring your spouse and rebuffing his or her legal counsel will eventually lead to the trial process removing the matter from your hands entirely. The judge hearing the case will make decisions on your behalf if he or she believes you and your spouse are incapable of coming to an agreement on your own.
Do Not Involve Your Children
No matter how angry you are at your spouse, you should not place your children in the middle of your disputes. Complaining to your children about your spouse, or complaining in an area where they can hear you speaking negatively about their other parent can create more problems for everyone. Children who are already being negatively affected by a divorce that they are struggling to process do not need to hear any details about why the marriage is ending or listen to their other parent being insulted by you or your friends. Put the emotional state of your children above everything else and refrain from criticizing your spouse in front of them.
Consult a Professional
Divorce is not something that you should feel obligated to handle on your own. The assistance of a qualified divorce attorney can make the initial separation process easier the manage and help reduce the chances of any major divorce-related mistakes being made. The attorneys at Vayman & Teitelbaum are prepared to discuss your situation with you and provide you with the legal advice you need to proceed with a divorce. Contact our Atlanta metro area office to schedule a consultation today.