The first holidays after a divorce are always difficult, but those holidays that revolve around children can be especially hard to navigate. Now that fall is here, separated and divorced parents are trying to find ways to make it through kid-oriented holidays without losing their patience or Halloween spirit. Focusing on building a stress-free event that creates a positive memory with your children is better for your family than fixating on spending Halloween alone or as a single parent. Following the advice of divorced or separated parents when the time comes to start preparing for a post-divorce Halloween will increase your chances of making it through the night without incident.
Communicate with the Other Parent
Immediately following a divorce or in situations where parents have a less than healthy relationship, communicating with a former spouse may not be that easy. Unfortunately, ignoring your ex-partner when preparing for Halloween will only cause more problems. Talk to your spouse about costume choices, events your children want to attend, and if you need to share the cost for the costume or candy that needs to be purchased for school. The last thing you want is to find out at the last minute that your ex never purchased the costume or that you have both promised to take your children to events that are happening at the same time in completely different locations.
Remember, it is Not About You
Never forget, this holiday is not about you or your former spouse. No matter how upset or hurt you are, it is important that you put your children, their needs, and their emotions first. This holiday is not about you getting an opportunity to fight with your ex’s new partner, complain about legal issues or settlement problems in an ongoing divorce, or doing anything else that may ruin your child’s joy. Both you and your ex must put your own feelings aside in order to create a healthy holiday environment for a child who does not want to be put in the middle of your divorce.
Make Your Own Plans
If your children are scheduled to spend the holiday with your spouse, that does not mean that you need to spend Halloween at home alone. Make plans to spend the holiday with your friends or other family members. Going to an adult party, a nice dinner, or simply enjoying the night by taking nephews, nieces, or younger cousins out to trick or treating will keep you occupied in a fun and healthy way. Just remember, if you are going through a divorce or custody has not been decided, refrain from posting a picture of yourself out with friends or at a party on social media.
Contact Vayman & Teitelbaum
Entering the holiday season with a relationship that is in limbo can create a great deal of stress for your and your children. If you would like to finalize a divorce or come to an agreement with your former partner regarding the custody of your children, the divorce attorneys at Vayman & Teitelbaum can help. Our team can explain your options and help you decide what course is best for you. Contact us today and schedule an appointment at one of our four Atlanta area offices so that we can begin working on your case.