Separating from a spouse is a common precursor to a divorce. A couple who can no longer share a bed or a home may need to stay away from each other, especially if they believe their divorce will be volatile. Separation gives both parties time to prepare for the end of their marriage while simultaneously giving each a chance to live in an environment that is less stressful.  Unfortunately, being separated is not the same as being divorced, meaning that there are some things you really should not do until the divorce is finalized. Staying aware of separation mistakes and their repercussions may help you avoid accidently sabotaging your own divorce.

Bragging on Social Media

The rise of social media has changed how divorce attorneys and accountants obtain information during property or custody related disputes. Instead of hiring private investigators to follow a spouse, law offices can use the internet to gather information that is provided by the spouse in question. Going online and bragging about the divorce settlement you believe you will get, money you are spending, or your plans to make an ex suffer financially could end up in front of a judge. Making wild claims and threats online can seriously damage your credibility while increasing your spouse’s chances of getting a favorable settlement.

Financially Depending on Your Spouse

During a separation, both spouses must usually work together to maintain their marital property.  This includes sharing mortgage payments, utility bills, and child related expenses. Even though your spouse may be obligated to help you with these expenses even if he or she has left the home, you have no way of knowing how long it will take for the court system to compel your ex to begin paying that share. Initiating a separation believing that your spouse will continue paying the bills could lead to a disaster, especially if you are stay at home parent or earn a limited income.


Honesty during a separation goes a very long way. Sadly, a person who is hurt, angry, stressed, and confused may start saying or doing anything he or she can to upset a former partner. This includes lying about romantic relationships, finances, and children. Eventually, you will either make a mistake or your spouse and his or her attorney will discover your dishonesty. Once you are caught being dishonest, it will be hard for you and your attorney to say or do anything in the future that is not questioned or verified. Remaining honest at all times will reduce some of the stress and suspicion that both parties may feel during the separation.

Get Advice

Separation is the first step on the road to divorce, and without proper legal representation from the beginning, fighting for your rights becomes more difficult. The experienced divorce attorneys at Vayman & Teitelbaum are available to answer your questions and provide you with the help you need during each stage of your divorce. With offices located throughout Atlanta, Georgia we are here when you need us. Contact us today to schedule your first consultation so that we can start providing you with the legal advice you deserve.