It should come as no surprise that divorce is difficult for children. This change in their lives leads to a number of unique challenges and emotional disruptions. Fortunately, there are some strategies that can be followed to make this situation less difficult for kids. While the recommended strategies below will not completely erase the pain and uneasiness that children experience from divorce, by following these recommended strategies, the divorce process can be made much more manageable.
Maintain a Healthy Routine
It is important for children to experience consistency in their lives after a divorce. Try to coordinate with your co-parent to maintain similar scheduled with the kids and approach any issues with similar disciplinary styles. Of course, it is important to be flexible if something comes up in the moment and you must shift the visitation schedule once or twice, but overall, try to stick to a healthy routine.
Surround Your Children With People Who Love Them
Try to include reliable and trustworthy adults in your child’s life. In addition to providing a number of strong role models for your child to learn from, this can also help the child know that he or she is loved and important.
Avoid Fighting in Front of Your Children
Tense arguments with the other parent can quickly turn heated, but it is important to avoid having children around at these times. Children who are exposed to fighting can have emotional difficulties later in life
Make Sure that Transitions are Peaceful
Even if you are not outwardly fighting with your ex, children are still able to perceive tense situations. Rather than make an exchange of the child an uncomfortable situation, you should make sure that it proceeds as smoothly as possible. No matter how angry or upset you feel about the transition, it is important to make sure that you remain calm and collected during these exchanges.
Leave Your Child With a Positive Expression
When a child leaves to spend time with another parent, it is important to make sure that the child understands you are happy that he or she is spending time with the other parent. Children who end up feeling guilty that they are spending time with the other adult experience difficulties maintaining healthy relationships with parents and others.
Make sure that your child understands that he or she does not need to worry about you so that your child can focus on making the best out of the situation.
Speak with an Experienced Divorce Attorney
There are a number of complex issues that parents face during a divorce, and the impact that divorce can have on a child is just one of them.
If you need the assistance of an experienced attorney, you should not hesitate to contact Vayman & Teitelbaum, P.C. today to schedule a free initial case evaluation.