By the time most couples decide to get divorced, they have been considering doing so for quite some time. Some statistics even suggest that a person spends approximately two years thinking about divorce before taking action.
The reason for this delay is that when spouses have intertwined their lives together, it can be difficult to imagine disentangling. It can also be incredibly difficult to speak with your spouse about the end of your marriage. Despite being difficult, these conversations are vital to have.
During a divorce conversation with a soon-to-be former spouse, many people encounter difficult emotions. The following are some helpful tips about what to avoid saying when discussing your pending divorce.
Avoid Giving Your Opinion About Asset Values
It is not uncommon for spouses to guess about various assets during a divorce conversation. By making these estimates, however, you can be creating false reliance if these guesses are not correct. The value of assets in a divorce is one of the most hotly debated issues. Some spouses even decide to change their living situation based on the other spouse’s guess about how much a residence is worth.
Instead of basing your opinion off of these details, it is a much better idea to first consult with a knowledgeable family law attorney. You should also avoid making uncertain promises about assets, tax refunds, or other things of value.
Conversations of this nature can be reserved for a later time when you have all of your accurate financial information in front of you.
Do Not Discuss Child Custody
Child custody is one of the most contentious issues involved in a divorce. It is important to avoid making any assumptions about how parental rights to any children involved in a divorce will be assigned. A divorce attorney can help provide you with a reasonable perspective of how a custody negotiation might resolve. If you do end up in a fight with your former spouse over child custody, a family law court will make the final decision.
Do Not Say Emotionally Charged Things
Some couples are capable of having divorce-related conversation in a calm manner, but others instantly slip into arguments.Instead of saying something that could hurt or instigate your spouse, try to remain kind and calm. By screaming or threatening your former spouse, you can make things much uglier and full of friction than they need to be, ultimately prolonging your divorce proceedings and costing yourself time and money.
Speak with an Experienced Divorce Lawyer
Deciding to end a marriage can be difficult. If you have questions or concerns about the divorce, do not hesitate to contact Vayman & Teitelbaum P.C. today to schedule a free initial consultation.