Cases and litigation involving family law can often become complicated. Both parties want to protect their rights and that often means that they are unwilling or unable to admit to themselves that they played a role in the deterioration of their familial relationship. Unfortunately, a refusal to accept accountability or empathize with your relative or the court could lead to trouble. Even when the other party is completely at fault, an unwillingness to negotiate could make it seem as if you are the person causing the problems and not the other party. When you meet with your attorney throughout your case, he or she is going to do everything possible to make sure you get the results you hope for. However, there are three things your attorney does not want to hear when fighting to secure your future.  

They are Lying

Yes, during a divorce, one side may lie repeatedly. The court understands this, your lawyer knows this, and even your spouse’s attorney knows this. However, constantly telling everyone involved in your case that your spouse or relative is lying does not help you or your attorney.  Instead of fixating on proving the dishonesty of one party, work to establish your own credibility.  People in family court are used to hearing more lying between relatives than they have heard in criminal cases. Spending time establishing your honesty is more beneficial in the long-term than proving the potential lies of another person.

He or She Should Not Get Anything

When assets are on the line, things can get extremely ugly really quickly. Both parties want to receive their fair share, but usually each adult has a different idea of what is fair. A person who has been the primary wage earner or one who has maintained the household may feel that his or her spouse does not deserve to benefit from something he or she did not pay for or work towards preserving. Regardless of who paid for what going into property division negotiations with an attitude that your spouse should be left with nothing is never good. Stubbornness can lead to the court deciding how assets should be divided and if that happens it is possible that no one will be happy.

I Want to Pressure Them to Submit

A common tactic during the early stages of divorce is to apply pressure to the other party in the hope that they will accept an unfair agreement or settlement out of desperation. Cutting off access to funds needed to manage the household, taking a jointly-owned vehicle so that your spouse has no transportation, or doing anything that leaves your partner at a disadvantage can hurt you more than it hurts him or her. When a spouse goes to the court showing evidence of threats or unethical and immoral behavior, the partner who tried to apply pressure often finds him or herself on the receiving end of court displeasure.

Get Advice

While an attorney does not want to hear about behavior or plans that could harm your case, he or she does want to discuss valid strategies that can secure a fair divorce. Before implementing any family law-related strategies on your own, get the advice of a qualified attorney. The team at Vayman & Teitelbaum is standing by to talk about your needs and help you determine the safest course of action. Contact us today to set up an initial consultation so that we can begin provide you with expert legal advice.