Once a post-divorce or break up custody dispute is resolved, many former partners want nothing to do with each other. Unfortunately, most parents must work together to co-parent their mutual children. While it is possible to keep contact to a minimum, there are times when you must provide the other parent with information. Failing to keep the co-parent informed could lead to serious problems, especially if your actions are violating court orders. Though you are not required to provide your former partner with a play-by-play of your child’s life, there a few things that you should never hide from a co-parent.


Children get sick on a regular basis, and most parents do not discuss small colds or known allergy issues. However, children do occasionally need to take antibiotics and other medications to treat serious infections or they may need multiple follow-up doctor visit after being hurt in an accident. When your child becomes seriously ill or hurt, you must always tell the co-parent.  Failing to keep your ex informed could create a situation in which your child does not receive the medication he or she needs or follow-up injury care that is crucial to recovery.

Unsupervised Trips

During their high school years, many children who play sports, are involved in clubs, or who are learning a different language go on extended trips to other states and countries. Schools require parents to give permission for the trip and pay travel expenses. When these trips are scheduled, you should always tell a co-parent where your child is going, how long your child will be gone, and exactly when your child will be returning home. This is especially important if you are not attending the trip as a chaperone. Having a former partner find out that a child is in another state or country via social media or another third party could cause many problems.

Educational Problems

The children of divorced parents are more likely to suffer from educational and behavioral problems in school. Grades or attendance may drop and your child may start behaving in a way that requires disciplinary action. As soon as the school explains what is happening to you, contact your former partner. It is possible that you will both need to work together to help your child catch up academically while providing them the support they need.

Reaching Out

There are times when the wounds from a divorce are so deep that you cannot immediately bring yourself to communicate with your ex-spouse. When that happens, you may need to consult a family law attorney. An attorney who is comfortable handling divorce and child custody related issues can advise you on how to proceed or contact your former partner on your behalf. The team at Vayman & Teitelbaum understands how difficult co-parenting after a confrontational divorce can be. We are prepared to work with you to find effective ways to communicate with your former partner. Contact us today to schedule a consultation at one of our Atlanta metro area locations so that we can provide you with the legal advice you need.