Divorce can be challenging for children, but it is also extremely difficult for parents. One of the many challenges that parents face following a divorce is how to successfully co-parent a child, which includes managing finances related to care of the child.
There are steps, however, that a parent can take to reduce the stress associated with co-parenting after divorce. The following review some proven strategies that parents can follow to make sure their co-parenting efforts are as successful as possible.
Include as Much Detail as Possible in the Parenting Plan
Discussions with a former spouse are often emotional, but many parents discover that routine conversation about the couple’s child can actually make their interaction much easier. The system that works best between parents can vary greatly between individuals. It is important to establish a plan to make certain that you successfully communicate matters with your co-parent, and remain consistent in carrying it out.
Many parents who do end up effectively communicating discover that many issues can be successfully outlined in parenting plans, which will make it easier to resolve future issues should they crop up.
Utilize Digital Communication and Organization
Many parents discover that using digital methods of communication enables them to co-parent much more effectively and with fewer conflicts. Some smart phone and internet based software allows co-parents to communicate directly as well as upload receipts and share other financial details. Keeping track of financial and other information in this way not only helps facilitate communication between parents, it also creates a paper trail to show that both parents are upholding their ends of a custody decree.
Acknowledge Your Child’s Concerns
If a child expresses difficulties with going to one parent’s house or with transitioning between residences, it is important to take this into consideration. Acknowledge how difficult the process must be for your child and do what you can to make the process less stressful.
Furthermore, parents should avoid saying anything negative about the other parent to the child because this can result in parental alienation and be detrimental to the mental health of the child.
Always Be Prepared to Update Your Plans
Even the best parenting plans need to occasionally be changed or updated. You should always be prepared to negotiate with your former spouse as things come up and circumstances change. By remaining flexible, you can avoid a number of arguments that might otherwise arise with your former spouse.
Work on Controlling Your Emotions
As hard as it might be to follow and as easy as it might be to recommend, you should do whatever it takes to keep your emotions under control. Many parents turn to writing down their thoughts and concerns down rather than sharing them with a former spouse. This way, parents can only raise the most pressing issues with the other parent and focus on the shared child’s well-being.
You should also avoid fighting with the other parent because this can create feelings of instability, which can have long term and damaging effects on a child.
Speak with a Knowledgeable Divorce Attorney
Even after a divorce is finalized, there are still a number of complications that can arise with co-parenting. If you need assistance navigating co-parenting plans after divorce, you should not hesitate to speak with a knowledgeable attorney.
Contact Vayman & Teitelbaum P.C. to schedule a free initial case evaluation.