Hindsight is 20/20. We often wish we made different decisions in the past after we are able to see things more clearly. Divorce is something that many adults reflect upon and wish they could redo after the decree is finalized and no other choices are available. Though every person has a different divorce experience, there are some things that nearly all divorcees wish they handled differently. Taking valuable advice from divorcees into consideration may aid you during your own divorce proceedings.
Realistically Plan for Future Living Expenses
After years of living in a two income household, or in a household with one adult who earns a substantial amount of money, the way we view expenses often changes. Even though we might be intellectually aware of the fact that our finances will change once we divorce, it is not unusual to underestimate our future living expenses. Paying for all expenses alone, or only receiving a portion of the financial support you are used to, can cause financial problems if you are not prepared. Anyone getting a divorce should spend time planning how they will pay for all of their living expenses without assistance and what they will do in the event of facing unexpected costs.
Do Not Fixate on Revenge
Anger and resentment are natural parts of divorce that can stay with a person for years. There is nothing wrong with feeling and acknowledging these feelings, but it becomes a problem when you begin focusing on revenge. People who attempt to do things that will hurt their spouses during a divorce often end up hurting themselves, their case, or their relationships with their children. No matter how angry you are, it is best to focus on protecting your rights and your post-divorce finances rather than revenge or vindication.
Divorce is Freeing
A divorce, especially if you are not the person who initiates it, can be a complete shock. Dealing with finances, children, and adjusting to a post-divorce routine can be overwhelming. However, once the divorce is over and the feelings of hurt or rage have passed divorce is freeing. Many divorcees realize that their lives are truly beginning instead of ending. The end of a marriage can mean the beginning of a new career, home, relationship, or a chance to completely reinvent yourself.
Taking the First Step
Taking the advice of those who have gone through the divorce process is only part of the process. Once you are ready to take the first step towards divorce, contacting a qualified family law attorney is vital. Good legal counsel who can advise you about support payments, custody options, and property division increases your chances of having success and happiness after you divorce. The attorneys at Vayman & Teitelbaum realize that deciding to get a divorce is a major step in the life of an adult and we are prepared to give you the support you deserve. Contact our Atlanta metro based offices today to schedule a consultation so we can discuss your situation and needs.