Following a divorce, many children exhibit various types of behavioral problems. Some children become withdrawn while other children become disruptive in school and at home. Younger children may believe that they are to blame for the separation of their parents, and older children may blame one or both parents for the split. Regardless of the type of behavior a child is exhibiting, finding ways to deal with post-divorce child behavior problems is a vital part of the healing process that allows the entire family to move on.
Discuss the Problems with the Other Parent
No matter how upset you are at your former spouse, it is important to place the needs of the children first. Discussing the behavioral problems the child is experiencing with the other parent gives you both a chance to compare notes and discuss what you have each observed. In some cases, both parents incorrectly assume the child is only acting out with them and a simple conversation can often reveal many things that neither parent was aware of. Talking about the problems helps you both begin thinking of ways to help the children who are still suffering following a divorce.
Confront the Situation as a Family
When children are having behavior problems it is best to confront the situation as a family rather than each parent trying to handle things alone. Often a united front can show your children that they are not going to be able to manipulate each parent individually. Also, seeing their parents work together and speak together can alleviate some of the anxiety the child feels about the future and the status of the family as a whole. Seeing divorced parents working together is helpful even though the children realize and understand that their parents will never be getting back together.
Seek Outside Assistance from School Staff and Physicians
Usually your ex-spouse and you are not the only ones who are aware of your child’s behavioral problems. School offices are often aware of the problem because the child is misbehaving in class or their grades have suffered. Discussing the situation with the school gives the school more insight into your child’s recent behavior and allows them to use school resources such as guidance counseling to help your children during the post-divorce period. Pediatricians may also be able to recommend therapists and counselors who have experience aiding children who are having trouble adjusting to a divorce.
Consulting an Attorney
There are times when counseling and talking to a child is not enough to resolve the issue. If your child’s behavioral issues are caused by unhappiness with the visitation schedule or other problems, then consulting a qualified divorce attorney is something you should consider. The compassionate attorneys at Vayman & Teitelbaum can aid you with any changes to visitation that are necessary and in the best interest of the child. With over 25 years of combined legal experience, they are able to give you consul that addresses your unique situation. Contact their offices by calling 678-736-7700 today to schedule a consultation.