After you agree with your former spouse to begin telling others about your divorce, you can be left with a number of questions. One of the most pressing questions might be what details about the divorce should be shared with your child’s school.

In these situations, it is important to not wait too long before discussing your divorce with your child’s teachers. By acting quickly, you can make sure that your child does not struggle and that his or her education is not negatively impacted by your divorce. The following will outline some other important steps that you can take when discussing the topic of divorce with your child’s school and teachers.

Learn How Your School Handles Communication

Consider how your child’s school communicates important information to parents. Neither you nor your former spouse should be placed in a situation in which you are dependent on the other to learn about school matters like grades or field trips. Make certain that the child’s school has contact information for both you and your former spouse.

Avoid Placing Teachers in the Middle of Things

It is helpful to remember that teachers are educators and not mediators, which means that you should avoid placing teachers in the middle of you and your ex. You should also not expect teachers to take one side or another. If you require someone to act as a mediator in your divorce, it is important to obtain the assistance of an attorney who can help.

Tell Your Child First

It can be tempting to tell a child’s teacher about a pending divorce before informing the child, but this often does not work well. If a teacher is told first, there is a possibility that the child will feel betrayed. Instead, inform your children first about an impending divorce.

To avoid your children learning about the divorce from someone else, it is a wise idea to tell the children about the divorce as soon as possible.

Remember That Your Communication is Not Confidential

No matter if you inform a teacher about a divorce in person or through email, it is critical to remember that conversations with the teacher are not protected with the same type of confidentiality as conversations you have with your lawyer.

Speak with an Experienced Divorce Lawyer


If you or a loved one has questions about the divorce process, one of the best steps that you can take includes obtaining the existence of an experienced attorney. At Vayman & Teitelbaum P.C., we understand the numerous complex issues that can arise when divorces occurs and a person has minor children. Contact our law office to schedule a free initial consultation.