Shared parenting is a form of custody that allows both parents to have equal physical time with their children. Shared parenting allows the children to have an equal relationship with each parent and allows the parents an opportunity to work together to raise their mutual children. Though there are psychological benefits to this type of parenting, there are times when shared parenting is not a good idea. Understanding why shared parenting may not be a good idea in your situation will help you decide what custody arrangement works best for you and your family.
Your Children do Not Like it
The best interests of the child should be everyone’s primary concern, and while some children thrive under shared parenting plans, others do not adjust well to the change. Children whose parents separated early in the relationship may have a difficult time staying with a parent they have no memory of living with. Children with anxiety or other conditions might experience significant distress having to go back and forth to different homes on a frequent basis. Remember, every child is different and what works well for one family might not be best for you.
Hectic Work Schedule
Parenting involves a certain amount of sacrifice, and single parents who share custody with a former partner can expect to make a number of professional sacrifices on behalf of their children. However, there are times when changing your work schedule or turning down a new position are simply not an option. If you are someone who has difficulty getting off of work to spend time with your child or expects to have to relocate for your career, then shared parenting may not be practical for you.
High Conflict
Though some couples who are extremely hostile with each other at the beginning of their shared custody arrangement eventually learn to work together, that is not always the case. Parallel parenting that allows each parent to take care of their mutual child without interacting with the other parent is possible, but sometimes parents cannot seem to avoid conflict. If you and your former partner cannot cooperate and are constantly at odds, this could cause significant stress for your child. In these situations, it could be better for the child to remain with one parent the majority of the time and have both parents share legal custody. There are times when not having joint equal physical custody of a child is better for all parties, especially the children.
Discuss Your Options
Every situation is different, and it is always best to talk to an attorney before making any agreements regarding custody. The child custody and visitation attorneys at Vayman & Teitelbaum are available to answer any questions that you have. Our legal team can discuss what custody options might work best for you and your child. We can guide you during each step of the custody process and provide you with the legal representation you need. Call us today at 678-736-7700 to schedule an appointment at one of our Atlanta, Georgia locations.
