It is common for child custody cases to become heated because it is often the case that both parents have unique and opposing ideas about how their children should be raised. For many parents, it can be difficult to arrive at mutually agreeable terms about how the child should be raised. 

While there are many things that couples often fight about during the divorce process, it is still critical that they place the needs of the children first. The following will reviews several strategies that parents should remember to exercise to make sure that children receive the best parenting possible, even during the most contentious divorces.

Be Cautious About Social Media Posting

Social media has provided many benefits in our lives. During a divorce, however, you must be cautious about the posts that you make on social media. You should also request that your family and friends exercise caution when posting details about you or your children’s lives on social media. Among other risks, inappropriate social media posts might create the impression that you are not as good a parent as you believe that you are. For example, a social media post showing that you are drinking alcohol or spending on inappropriate things could end up having a negative impact on your divorce.

Communicate With Your Ex in a Respectful Way

It is easy to end up filled with anger and resentment about your spouse during the divorce process, but communication with your former spouse should be respectful. 

Not only can this make the relationship with your former spouse worse, but some cases can also result in the court taking adverse action against you. Instead of fighting with the former spouse, try to remain calm and address issues in as polite a tone as possible.

Never Place Children in the Middle of Things

It can be tempting during a divorce to ask your children questions about what is happening in your former spouse’s life. Placing children in this position is never a good idea and can end up damaging the relationship that the child shares with both parents. You should similarly avoid asking your child to communicate messages between you and your former spouse. 

Asking children to relay messages places them in an awkward and uncomfortable position. Instead, if you need to send a message to your former spouse, you should directly communicate with your former spouse.

Build Positive Relationships

Even if a divorce occurs, you should not attempt to alienate your children from the relationships that they share with that side of the family. Instead, it is a good idea to encourage your children to have strong relationships with your ex’s family. This also means not expressing any negative emotions about those family members to the child.

Contact an Experienced Divorce Attorney

It can be difficult to make sure your children receive adequate care during the divorce process. If you need legal assistance during this difficult time, do not hesitate to contact Vayman & Teitelbaum P.C. today to schedule a case evaluation.