As you navigate the divorce process, you will likely learn many things about divorce that you previously did not know. For example, there are certain times of the year, like January, when the number of divorces increases across the country. In part, this is because many people view the new year as a new start and decide to finally initiate divorce after thinking about it for a while. A second thing many people learn about divorce is that no two divorces are the same. Some divorces are the result of a mutual agreement between couples, and some divorces come as a total surprise to one of the parties.
The aftermath of a surprise divorce can leave a person emotionally destroyed and uncertain about what lies ahead. Additionally, you must say goodbye to the dreams and hopes that you shared with your loved one. While no one wants to be surprised by divorce, there are fortunately some things you can to decrease the chances of being overwhelmed by a surprise divorce.
No divorce comes without some warning signs. You need to look at the various challenges in your marriages realistically. Consider whether these are fundamental disagreements that your marriage is not likely to weather. Many elements lead to divorce, including fights about money, communication styles, and parenting approaches. While every couple has at least a few fights, arguments that are serious and incapable of being overcome often lead to divorce.
Listen to Your Partner’s Concerns
Most spouses will verbalize their desire to end a marriage before filing for divorce. It is best to listen closely to your spouse’s concerns before filing divorce papers. If your spouse expresses a desire to no longer be married, you must appreciate this comment. What might seem like a surprise can seem much easier to predict when you think back on what your spouse said during fights or disagreements.
Surround Yourself With a Strong Support System
If your spouse files for divorce, one of the best things to do is to surround yourself with a strong support system. This team often includes friends, family, a therapist, your divorce lawyer, and sometimes a financial planner. It is much easier to navigate the divorce process when you surround yourself with people who love you and who have your best interests in mind.
Put Negativity Aside
In its simplest terms, marriage is a contract. When you get divorced, this contract ends. Giving yourself a hard time now about what you could or could not have done to save your marriage is of little good. Take this time to not focus on why the marriage ended but instead focus on what your future looks like and beginning to take steps to achieve your goals or the life that you see yourself leading.
Speak with a Skilled Divorce Attorney
If you must navigate a divorce, one of the best first steps that you can take is to speak with an experienced attorney. Contact Vayman & Teitelbaum, P.C. today to schedule a free case evaluation.