Even if things go according to plan, the end of a marriage can be an emotionally trying time. While certain tensions between exes resolve as time progresses, other divorcing couples find themselves facing intense and long-lasting conflict. Even though it is impossible to control the actions of your ex during this time, there are some steps that you can take to increase the likelihood that your divorce proceeds smoothly.

What is a High Conflict Divorce?

A high conflict divorce is one in which there is a substantial level of distrust between the parties involved. In most situations, high conflict divorce involves one of the following:

  • Conflicts related to the approach of each spouse during the divorce which can include aggressiveness, hostility, and stubbornness
  • Conflicts related to divorce issues including alimony, parenting plans, and property division
  • Conflicts involving aggressive or threatening behavior which can including blaming the other spouse, calling the other spouse names, and physical threats

Managing Conflict During Divorce

Fortunately, there are a number of strategies that can be used to decrease the amount of conflict that occurs during a divorce. Some of the recommended strategies include the following:

  • Avoid becoming overly emotional and instead focus on the facts of the case.
  • Be prepared for any future conflicts that might arise by keeping notes about your interactions with your former spouse.
  • Do not admit to any wrongdoing, even if you believe that apologizing is what your former spouse wants you to do.
  • Do not place your children in the middle of your divorce, which can ruin their view of the other parent and sometimes even ruin the relationships they have with you.
  • Look toward the future, which can help to decrease the number of negative emotions that you are currently experiencing.
  • Make sure that any agreement between you and your former spouse is in writing because there is always a risk that your spouse could go back on his or her word.
  • Reduce the amount of contact between you and your former spouse. Instead of directly interacting with your former spouse, your attorney can do so.
  • Remain optimistic about your divorce.
  • Take time for yourself and do things that you like to during the divorce to avoid harming your own mental health.
  • Under any circumstances, if your interaction with your former spouse results in abuse and physical threats, do not hesitate to contact law enforcement.

Speak with an Experienced Divorce Lawyer

If you are currently navigating a high conflict divorce, you should not hesitate to speak with an experienced attorney at Vayman & Teitelbaum P.C. Our law firm understands the complex issues involved in these cases and we will remain committed to providing the dedicated legal representation that you need during this difficult time.